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Willpower is something we use to do, well, anything and yet so few of us understand how powerful a gift from God willpower is. Think about it, there are stories of even the frailest of using willpower to lift cars off their loved ones after a car crash, there are stories of people on their deathbeds holding off death through sheer will to say goodbye to their loved ones. Why is free will the greatest gift God has given us? Because it is only through true free will that the power of willpower can be realized!
All of the things I mentioned come from the DESIRE to protect, to say the things you never could before to your loved ones, that is something that couldn’t be done to the extent that we can do it if it wasn’t out of desire and love to protect and do what you need to. Willpower has a strange way of blinding us to the point that we don’t think at all if the situation is dire enough, we simply try and succeed.
There’s an anime called Dragon Ball Super which shows this well in the latter parts when Goku enters a mindset called “Ultra Instinct”. When Goku enters this mindset on screen it’s always for one singular purpose, to protect his loved ones. Nothing else exists in his mind, there are no other enemies except the one in front of him, there is nothing that can distract him from his mission and there is no other mission than protecting his friends.
Though it’s shown an anime, we are completely capable of achieving this amount of willpower in real life. I myself must do it regularly due to many physical and mental health issues. I cannot and will not succumb to the very things I try to warn people against! I must make the choice that the purpose God has given me WILL be realized, I WILL protect those around me even if it means I get hurt or worse, I MUST not become who I was before I met Jesus and I must rely on His willpower to not go back to who I was.
But even if you don’t believe in God, willpower is still such a powerful tool. See your dream as something that MUST come true, see your loved ones as people you MUST protect and see your past self as someone who MUST remain in the past no matter what and use the gift of free will to change this world in ways everyone says you could never change it in ways that everyone said you couldn’t! More importantly, use it to change the world and the people in it because it will only get darker if those with strong will do not step up and use them.
Why is a community with others so important to us? Why is the pain of loneliness so unbearable? To answer this I need to share the time in my life when I first understood what community was and what it meant. When my first friend saved me from the depths of darkness despite my constant rejection of Him, the one who never stopped loving me despite how deeply my hatred for Him grew and the one who taught me who empathy and love are. The day I accepted Jesus as my savior and friend, my community, after many years of convincing myself that I didn’t need or want community.
Community isn’t just knowing of other people, the community is about being able to truly empathize and understand other people, to share your pain, your happiness, your despair, your joy and your passion with one another and grow as individuals and as a group. Community is something that has been vital to us since day one of our race’s existence. When God created Adam he was completely sinless and perfect and yet something was still missing, he had no one to share the happiness of the things God had given him with, despite being in literal paradise it wasn’t complete without the ability to share the depths of himself with another. Even in complete perfection, Adam could still feel the sting of loneliness. So God created Eve and only after that was Adam completely fulfilled in every way.
No matter how much we try to convince ourselves otherwise, we NEED people who can share in our joys and our pains, we need people we can rely on to steer us back on the right path when we stray from what’s good. God did not create man to be alone and no amount of trying to convince ourselves otherwise will change that. To say that we need no one to correct us, to connect with us, to bear our burdens with us is to put ourselves on the same pedestal as God himself and as we’ve seen in the past, those who do that get knocked down hard.
In this way, accepting a community is also a sign of being humble, to accept that you have limits and cannot do everything on your own. A community between us is the last prayer Jesus prayed before his trial and crucifixion began. The desire for community is something we simply can’t truly do way with no matter how deep we bury it. Community with others is what will keep us from destroying ourselves and it’s what will bring some semblance of peace to the world.
Find a community and if all other communities reject you, create one!